Sunday, July 29, 2007
Got this article from the net. Again nothing to do at work and there's a compulsive need to surf the net to kill time.....hehehe....Anyway it's interesting to know how loving someone too much will only destroy the relationship and I find it very true. Anyway I always believe in giving only 50% of my love to that someone and the other 50% is for that someone to give me his love. However I am a human being afterall, always end up giving more than what we should.
"When you love too much, you're not letting your partner love you back, in his or her way. You're not letting him miss you, or decide for himself how he truly feels about you. You're stopping him from respecting and appreciating you. When you love too much, you're always expecting something in return, and setting yourself up for disappointment. You'll be criticized and taken for granted. You're inviting yourself to become a victim. Loving too much isn’t real love - it's living in a bubble of selfishness, loneliness and lack of self-esteem.
People who love their partners too much are destroying the relationship. In place of balance and affection, you'll feel anger, resentment, frustration and even hatred for the fact that you are not receiving the same kind, or the same amount, of love.
Love is a choice. It should be balanced and positive, not total, fanatical, automatic and compulsive. If you love too much, you are, in effect, trying to force others to love you back. If you smother your partner you don't really love him, you're fixating on him. Loving someone endlessly and unconditionally isn’t love it’s a compulsive disorder and a form of emotional blackmail."